Top 10 Pregnancy Fears (And Why You Shouldn’t Fear Them)

There are numerous fears an expectant mother faces throughout her pregnancy term. These fears are based on many aspects such as rumors, myths, emotions, hormones and even past experiences. However, educating yourself, especially early in your pregnancy, can help calm your nerves somewhat. Keep in mind that as your trimester changes, so does your fears. Some fears, such as the health of your baby may last the entire pregnancy, while other fears such as labor and delivery surface in the third trimester. It’s okay to be fearful, especially if you’re a first time mother. Each pregnancy is different. We’ve collected the Top 10 pregnancy fears, and try to explain why you shouldn’t fear them anymore.

1. Miscarriage– The number one fear expectant mother’s face is having a miscarriage. Less than 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, plus most miscarriages happen within the first few weeks of pregnancy when expectant mothers aren’t expecting. Once you’ve passed the 6-8 week pregnant mark, you’ll be able to hear a heartbeat at your doctor’s appointment and hopefully put your fear aside, as miscarriage percentages decrease dramatically after the first trimester.

2. Weight Gain– Many women worry about the amount of weight they will gain while they’re pregnant. Statistics show that 14-20% of mother’s keep some of the weight they put on, however, a steady diet and exercise can help shed the extra pounds. Finding an exercise class such as yoga during your pregnancy, can not only benefit you and your baby, but it can also help you maintain a routine once the baby is born.

3. Health of Baby– Many expectant mothers find themselves consumed with negative thoughts and emotions that deal with the health of their baby. Having a healthy baby starts with a healthy pregnancy. Taking prenatal vitamins, eating healthy, exercising and doing things to keep your spirits high are all important things you can do to help ensure the health of your baby. Still, it’s important to remember the unavoidable risks of birth defects that are genetically related.

4. Parenting Skills– Many expectant parents spend a lot of time worrying about whether they will be a good parent. It’s a normal fear, and more importantly it’s a healthy sign that the parent will turn out just fine. Many experts remind future parents that they don’t need potty training skills right after their baby is born, and parenting styles are developed as the baby grows

5. Labor and Delivery– Almost every pregnant woman, especially first time expectant mothers, find themselves in sheer fear of labor and delivery. Questions like “How long will it last?” or “How much will it hurt?” can be found in the brains of pregnant women worldwide. Enrolling in childbirth classes such as Lamaze, The Bradley Method or Yoga can help prepare you for the pain, long hours and intense emotions. Childbirth classes not only help you understand the process of childbirth, but they also give you confidence when dealing with pain.

6. Harming The Baby– Many expectant mothers are very cautious when it comes to activities, food, beverages, medicine, etc. One of the biggest pregnancy fears is that the mom-to-be will somehow, unintentionally harm her baby. It’s important to remember that your doctor will give you a list of no-no’s, and if you stay away from these things, eat healthy and exercise, there’s really no need to drive yourself crazy.

7. Weight Loss– Many expectant mothers are fearful that they won’t be able to lose the weight they’ll gain while pregnant. It’s one thing to fear how much weight you’ll put on, but it’s a totally different fear agonizing if you’ll be able to go back to your ‘pre-pregnant days’ body. It’s a very common fear, however, if you’re that worried about it, make sure you continue to eat healthy and exercise regularly after you give birth.

8. Emergency C-Section– Generally c-sections are not spontaneous. In most cases, the c-section is planned if the baby is too large, breech, if there is problems with the placenta or if the mother has had previous c-sections. Doctors usually know of the problem before the baby is in position to be vaginally delivered, so they discuss the options ahead of time with everyone involved.

9. Stress– Ironically, expectant mothers find themselves stressing over the idea that their baby will be harmed due to the amount of stress the mother is experiencing. Experts say that mild stress is actually good, and that the stress releases good hormones for mom and baby. Severe stress however, has been associated statistically with lower birth weight babies.

10. Sex– Many pregnant mothers worry about having sex during pregnancy and if sex will ever be the same again. The truth is, as long as you and your doctor are okay with you having sex while you’re pregnant, there’s nothing to be fearful of. Even after birth, many women feel like their body parts will never return to normal, nor will they ever have a sex drive again. The truth is, your body will return to normal after the healing process, and yes breastfeeding does decrease your sex drive, however your libido will also continue to increase.

This page was last updated on 06/2017
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