Sex After Miscarriage

Sex After Miscarriage

Sex after miscarriage is a very popular topic for conversation. Many people agree and disagree about whether or not it’s safe, while others debate on how long a woman should wait to resume sexual intercourse. For many women it’s an emotional debate, as sex leads to pregnancy and in recent times, pregnancy led to miscarriage. Some women can not get themselves ‘in the mood’ for sexual pleasure for weeks and months after a miscarriage. Normal recovery periods are said to last anywhere from 2 weeks to 3 months, regarding a woman’s emotional and physical well being. Still, many experts believe there should be some time frame when women avoid sexual intercourse, as well as the insertion of any tampons, douche, etc. after miscarrying.

When It’s Safe to Have Sex Again

In most cases, it’s safe to resume sex after a miscarriage once the miscarriage bleeding has stopped. Generally this takes two weeks, however, all women vary. You want to wait until after the bleeding stops to give your cervix time to close up. Your body goes through a physical process from the miscarriage as your cervix dilates. Sex during this period of time increases your chances of infection in the uterus. The stopped bleeding is a signal that sex is safe to resume. Some women begin spotting at the end of this cycle, however, she should still wait to have sex until all bleeding and spotting has stopped.

Waiting For Your Period

If you and your partner want to begin trying to conceive, you should wait until after your first menstrual cycle, after the miscarriage. In most cases and during a normal recovery, your first period won’t arrive until after 4 weeks or so. It takes about 3 weeks for your hormone levels to recover from the miscarriage. Some women believe that the brownish or yellowish discharge that is exiting their vagina is a sign of fertility. The opposite is true. Plus, many experts say it’s important a woman gives herself time to grieve and heal from her previous loss. Experts say a woman should take a good three months to grieve, and more importantly take three months to give her uterus lining time to get back to rebuilding itself fully each time.

Chances of Getting Pregnant Again

Many women have gotten pregnant again in as soon as 2 weeks after their miscarriage when resuming sexual intercourse immediately afterwards. Couples who want to avoid pregnancy, yet want to continue sexual intercourse immediately should use contraceptives. Chances are high that a woman can get pregnant immediately after a miscarriage, however, many health care professionals agree that it is best to wait until a woman has physically and emotionally healed before trying to conceive again.

Having Sex After a Miscarriage

Regardless if you’ve waited the suggested time before resuming sex, women should not just jump back into bed in a wild fashion. Try having sex slower and softer at first, as emotions are high, more than likely for both partners. Easing back into sex with your partner after a miscarriage can heal you emotionally, and help you to enjoy sex again before trying to get pregnant.

[Page updated June 2014]